Adoption Update

After weeks and weeks of hearing NOTHING about our adoption, we were starting to get discouraged.  From what we knew, the baby was due January 11. 

We stayed in Tennessee for the holidays just in case she went into labor and called us.  When school started back up, we were starting to feel discouraged.  That Monday night, I asked our home group to really pray for patience for us and for God to do His will in this situation.  We hadn't heard from our birthmother in weeks, and weren't sure if she was still wanting adoption.

The next day.... I got a call from our friend.  She had been in touch with the birthmother!  The day after that, we learned that the doctor had agreed to see our birthmother!  So, Thursday, I went with our mutual friend and spent the day with our birthmother.  We went to the doctor and to get an ultrasound.  Ultimately, we learned that the due date was incorrect.  Both the doctor and the ultrasound tech put her around 33 weeks. 

She was still undecided - between adoption and keeping the baby.  I assured her that we would be praying for her to make a good decision, and that we were with ok with whatever her decision may be. 

Fast forward to this week.  After three consecutive snow days (!!!) I was waiting to see if we would be out for a fourth day in a row.  Our friend texted me and let me know that our birthmother had an appointment the next day.  When we got the call that school was cancelled again, I quickly agreed to go to the appointment!  Through a last minute issue, our mutual friend could not attend the appointment.  So, I went by myself. 

While in the waiting room, I asked her if she had thought any more about her decision.  She told me that she feels like she has to at least try to parent this baby.  She has decided to keep the baby.  She feels like this is her chance to turn her life around.

So, right now, it appears that this adoption will not go through.  Of course, there is still time left in this situation.  Our birthmother may change her mind again.  We are trusting that God is working things out in His timing!  If this is the baby for us, He will make that happen.  If this is not the baby for us, the right baby will come into our lives at the right time. 

While this is painful to have our plans changing, we know that God's will is being done.  We are trusting Him in this time.  We pray continually for our birthmother - if she wants to parent, we pray that she is successful with this baby.